Dear Men Who Think They Are Winning When They Are Actually Losing,

You cannot find a woman of genuine character if you are not operating as a man of genuine character yourself. That is not unfair. That is just how it works. //

You want a woman who chose you. Not settled for you, not defaulted to you because you were convenient, not attached to you because of neurochemistry you both generated before you even knew each other's last names. CHOSE you. With her eyes fully open, knowing who you are, and deciding you are worth building with.
That woman exists. She is probably not the most exciting woman in the room. She is probably the one who is a little harder to access, a little slower to give herself away, a little more certain about what she is looking for and not particularly interested in apologizing for it.
Stop chasing the race. Start choosing wisely.