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But this one woman has men figured out down to their core.
As TikTok user "Brennatalkstoomuch" says in her video, women need to understand that men love "quests." What does she mean by that? She explains that this might not apply to all men, but all the men she wants in her life love quests.
She notes, however, that men hate "puzzles," and she explains what she means.
"Most men don't want you to be coy, and confusing, and elusive," she says. "They want you to have very clear quests that you tell them 'this is exactly what I want, I want you to do this, and I will be happy when you do it.'" //
Brenna compared it to a video game, saying that she could offer him a hot cup of coffee the moment he gets in from the job, as this will trigger the reward centers in men's brains. He completes a quest, and she gives him resources for his trouble. "He's leveled up" Brenna says, "he's winning now!"
Brenna notes that when a man loves a woman, nothing makes him happier than making her happier by accomplishing quests.
She adds that women tend to minimize themselves in this regard out of a fear of being an inconvenience, but notes this isn't how men's brains work. It's not an inconvenience to make our women happy through completing tasks and requests. All a woman has to do in return is be appreciative and express thankfulness.
Her final tip to ladies is "don't say sorry," say "thank you." In other words, women tend to be apologetic for their belief they're being an inconvenience or complication, when in reality they're the reason he wants to quest in the first place.